Cosmic Insights for December 2018

We’re all looking for something. Be it a better life, a better relationship, an enriching career, a spiritual purpose, happiness, less pain, fulfilment or contentment (to name but a few). We’re all looking for something, seeking out maybes, searching for hope. We reach deeply into our hearts and souls, looking for ‘the answer’; sometimes even looking for the question. We want to know why ‘a plus b equals c’, and we often try to seek out new ways of re-writing such equations when things don’t pan out quite as we would hope or expect. It can be hard to make sense of why ‘a plus b’ can’t equal d or z. Of course, as enquiring humans, ever-changing and ever-evolving, it’s easy to see why we are always on a quest to understand, enrich and improve, but it can become exhausting and overwhelming, as no matter how hard we try, we never quite get to the horizon.

We often work hard trying to re-shape and re-define the world in which we live, sometimes on a quest to make the world a better place, but sometimes through a desire to find a solution to a seemingly intractable problem; sometimes it can be hard for us to accept that, despite our best efforts, we can’t always achieve the desired outcome.

Acceptance can be a difficult and bitter pill to swallow at times, as we so often equate acceptance with the idea of giving up or giving in. It feels passive and hollow, and we can struggle to feel okay with the idea of acceptance as we fear it means we’ve lost our fight and mettle, with the battle ending in defeat. Yet, when we are faced with brick wall after brick wall, it can be hard to know when it’s time to push and when it’s time to let go. How can we tell when we’ve reached the threshold of ‘enough’ trying? Of course, very often when we find ourselves in such situations, it can be hard to see the wood for the trees and, as a result, we lose our sense of perspective. We forget to take a breath or step back in order to gain fresh insight.

In our hearts and souls, we know there resides a deep pool of courage and strength, inspiring us to face adversity, to rise up from the ashes and to keep on trying. So, it’s easy to see why we can struggle to find peace with the idea of acceptance as it can feel as though we’ve shrivelled up and bowed down to defeat. Yet, if we pause for a moment to step back and think about this dialogue: fight, struggle, battle, defeat. Are we at war with ourselves? Is it our perspective of ourselves and our lives that’s really at the core of this as perception ultimately shapes and defines the paths we walk?

As I mentioned last month, we spend so long trying to sharpen and hone the undefined pieces of ourselves, and work so hard trying to create a masterpiece, that we can forget to find the time to be at one with ourselves, to let be, to let breathe and to let live. It’s often only when we are faced with a challenge that we pause and begin to realise just how tightly we’ve been clinging on.

We so often take life for granted, we push through day after day, thinking ‘tomorrow’ when it comes to embracing our dreams and living the life we intuitively know we were born to live. Yet, no one can know what resides around the next corner and waiting for tomorrow always runs the risk of running out of time. I know I took my life for granted until the day I couldn’t anymore. I kept putting things off for a better moment, but then my health deteriorated, and the ‘better moment’ dissipated and slipped out of view. Of course, I’ve found new dreams, but I still feel a twang of sadness for the things I can no longer do. All of those things I’d spent time searching for, as I tried to perfect and hone my life, became meaningless, as I realised the importance of letting this all go in order to make the most of every single moment.

I’ve been privileged enough to spend time with those near the end of life, and their optimism and energy to grab life and make the most of every moment always strikes a chord in my heart as I wish we could all do this from an early age rather than waiting until (and if) we’re given a deadline. It often seems ironic to me that the most enlivened people I’ve met are nearing the end of their time on this earth. We all have a lesson to learn from that, don’t we? Surely, it’s better to live for the moment and to make the whole journey matter, from birth to death?

Acceptance takes more courage, mettle, strength and self-belief than any battle or war we choose to wage in life. Acceptance opens up our hearts and souls to the pain, the grief and the immensity of life, but it also allows us to embrace joy in its rawest form as we’ve stripped back the layers and allowed ourselves to be at one with ourselves and our life exactly as it is. This doesn’t mean we’ve given up, but we’ve allowed ourselves the opportunity to be in the moment and finally be fully present in the here and now.

Life’s short, but it matters. It matters to wake up in the morning feeling a sense of awe at being alive, and it matters to feel a sense of purpose and connection. So, instead of trying so hard to seek out answers and questions in a quest to get life ‘right’, maybe it’s time to find peace with the irrational, perplexing and bewildering thing we call life…

For now, I wish you all kinds of wonderful.

With love,